1.0. INTRODUCTION
It is in the nature of human to develop feelings for the opposite sex. In the law of nature it stands written that opposite sexes attract each other. Among the growing young people, with the feelings of sexual urge, they are moved by passion to enter into relationship basically Romantic Relationship not because they love the person but in other to satisfy their sexual urge.
Romantic Relationship is not meant to be seen among youth, this is why this article advocates for Philia Relationship among the youth. Young people should know that anyone commg to you for sexual or romantic relationship does not love you but only wants to satisfy his or her sexual libido.
However, love for the other among the youth is possible only when there is unconditional positive regard and they should avoid getting into debt, except the debt of mutual love. In Philia Relationship, the opposite sexes are humble, gentle and patient with one another and they show their love to each other by being helpful to one another.
2.0. ILLUMINATION OF TERMS: PHILIA-RELATIONSHIP
Philia-Relationship is a digression from other types of relationship, like sexual or romantic relationship. Philia-Relationship is a combination of two words, "Philia" which is from a Greek word meaning "Friendly love or to love" (Onuoha Jude et al @2016), while Relationship according to Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary 8th edition, is the way which people, group or countries behave towards other or deal with each other or a way in which two or more things are connected.
Love is however, a strong feeling of deep affection for someone (not a romantic love). A friend is a person you know well and like, who is not usually a member your family whereas "Friendly" is a process of behaving in a kind and pleasant way because you like someone or want to help someone.
Drawing from the aforementioned, we can deduce that Philia Relationship is a friendly love towards a person you like or you have strong feelings of deep affection for. Philia Relationship in other word, is the expression of care, and selfless sacrifice towards a person you have deep affection. It is a behaviour that is kind and pleasant towards a person you are connected with in which you have strong feeling of deep affection for.
3.0. PHILIA-RELATIONSHIP AS AN IDEAL RELATIONSHIP AMONG THE YOUTH
Among the youth today, the reigning relationship is Romantic Relationship which is a relationship that involves sex. For this reason, when you tell a girl or a boy that you love him or her, the mind will run to sexual relationship.
✨Must it be sex in a relationship? NO!
✨Sex is sacrosanct and not for unmarried persons.
✨Is it possible to enter in a sexless relationship? YES!
Any relationship that should exist among the youth should be Philia-Relationship. Love is not sex as we have previously aforesaid. Romantic Relationship is meant for married couples and not for the unmarried youth. The true form of love is Philia and other form amidst youth is derogatory.
4.0. PHILIA-RELATIONSHIP AN IDEAL RELATIONSHIP AMONG THE YOUTH.
☢ It does not take pleasure in sex. In other words, it is free of sex and any other sexual activities.
☢ Care: The two parties help each other n any way they can.
☢ Full of deep affection: They like or love each other very much that they can sacrifice for each other.
☢ Listening to each other
☢ Correct each other with love.
☢ Willingness to say I am sorry even when you are not at fault.
☢ It is never boastful or proud.
☢ It does not take offence.
☢ It is always ready to trust and hope.
☢ It does delights in truth.
☢ It is ready to excuss.
☢ It is ready to endure what ever comes.
☢ Ability to remind each other about staying away from sexual activities. This will help them a lot.
☢ It is not selfish.
☢ Finally, it is a relationship that it's love is not a pretense but sincerely perfect good to evil and they love each other as much as brothers should, and have a profound respect for each other (Rom. 12:9-10).
N:B----------- PHILIA-RELATIONSHIP IS NOT SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS NOT THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT IT IS WHICH HAVE BEEN LISTED ABOVE.
5.0. CONCLUSION
Knowing fully well that the heart is more devious than any other thing, the young people should know that they will cover up trust with lies by coming in form of building a Philia-Relationship with them but in their heart is self-seeking ambition. You must be very careful because they are cunning. Look and refute them immediately.
Finally, we can build Philia-Relationship since there is nothing we cannot master with the help of the one who gives us strength (Phil. 4:13).
I LOVE YOU IS NOT I WANT SEX !
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