Happiness will lead one to love but if it vanishes, one's life will become a night. Living a fulfilled life is finding meaning in life: reason to continue to live. Many people who have committed suicide were because they do not find fulfillment in life, hence, they resorted to end this life since it has no meaning again.
Not finding fulfillment in life means this life has no meaning. The highest gift one can have is to be alive. Life is very beautiful and it is the best of the life you can imagine; let us not talk of metaphysical life because we do not know how life beyond this world looks like, if there is life after this life, let us enjoy the one we can lay hands on in full.
The society is made up of a number of conflicting ideas, and presently, many countries are undergoing religious chauvinism which is causing inter religious war.
This article however, having found the importance of living a fulfilled life, is meant to discuss some of the ways that can help one avoid depression and also to live a fulfilled life amidst a troubled world like ours. The world in this resent years has witnessed a lot of disaster not from natural occurrences but as well as socially created disaster.
The following ways however will help you avoid depression and anxiety which will lead you to living a fulfilled life amidst troubled world.
1. LIVING AN AUTHENTIC LIFE:
Living an authentic life means that one has to find oneself and then live in accordance with this life. This does not mean that the self is something one can find if one looks hard enough or that one's true self is substantial rather it means that in acting in this life, one should act as oneself not as another person.
Often times, we choose to act as another person through the process of imitation forgetting that each individual has its own unique characteristics that are only one peculiar to him or her. This has to do with choosing your values yourself and letting it to come to play when making a choice: here the question of what do I want comes in and not what will they want. An authentic life shy away from trying to please others in the expense of displeasing yourself. When you allow others to tell you what you should do, you end up living an inauthentic living and you will never find joy because you are doing their will not your will.
2. LIVING A FREE LIFE AND KNOWING THE CHOICES YOU MAKE:
According to Jean Jacque Rousseau, 'Freedom is the bed rock of humanizing man'. In other words, to be human is to be free and when freedom is taken away from man, he returns to the level of a brute. Living a free life means living a life where you are able to choose your values bearing in mind that freedom is not Liberum arbitrium where almost everything is possible but free life encapsulates being responsible for the choices you make in life.
Living a free life is when you are able to make your choices, knowing full well the responsibility of the choices you make. This however, helps you make a good choice in life. The choices you make determine what you get. Sow a good seed and you will reap a good seed. The way you plan you life is the way it will go since the way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it. You must always have this in mind that a single choice of yours is capable of watering down your life which will leave you in a state of being despaired and in other hand, a single simple fruitful choice can change your life to be better. Know the choices you make.
3. BEING CONTENTED WITH ONES LIFE:
The earlier you realize that life does not give one everything he requires the better for you. Contentment here means being satisfied with what one has. It does not say one should not be hard working to get what one wants. Contentment means, I needed $20 thousand dollar, I have done my best by working too hard but I was not able to get it, instead of thinking too much that I have not achieved my aim, I will be optimistic that I will one day get the $20 dollar. I will come back and do with what I have gathered so far. It mean when the desirable is not available the available becomes the desirable.
If you are not contented, you will end up being vulnerable of having your life and world broken down. This means that one's life should not be based solely to one particular thing because the only thing constant in this world is change, so that when that fails or collapses, you will not live in regret. In a simple form, do not put all your hope in one particular thing because it can fail anytime.
4. BUILD YOURSELF:
Building yourself means ordering your life, ordering your life means planning your life, planning your life is planning to live and planning to live is planning to be happy since he who fails to plan is planning to fail. Building yourself means asking yourself a fundamental question: ' What do I want?'
This will redirect you to another question, 'How do I get what I want?' which will make you to think of who you need to get what you want and things also needed to get what you want. Building yourself requires a higher discipline which will enable you stick to your plans. Nevertheless, after planning how to pilot your lifestyle, action is needed because action speaks louder than voice.
A man once said, 'It is easy to build a house with one's mouth but in practice it is difficult'. The earlier you realize that the world is not bed of idea the better for you. You must fail in some of your quest but failure is never the end you should know, it is a step towards you success; it means try again or put more effort.
5. DEFINING WHO YOU ARE:
This aspect has brought about people feeling dismal, dismayed and also dejected because of the notion 'They Said'. Allowing people to define us has brought about people feeling that they are worst than everyone in the world. For instance, A and B are students and their teacher tells them that they are worthless student because they seems not to be doing well academically.
'A' went home and said since our teacher said I am worthless, what is the need for me to struggle in life? He relaxes and remained in his state of defined worthless person. Whereas B went home and said, I am never worthless and I must prove to her that I am valuable. B picked her book and started studying by putting more efforts and at the long run comes out to be the best of the students. The difference between A and B is clear.
'A' allowed people to define who he is while B defined who he is to the people. What matters in life is not what people say you are rather it is what you said you are to the people. You are the architect of your life which was given to you by God. Your freewill allows you to do with your life the way you want but remember freedom goes with responsible: Man is free but always in chains.
Other factors you should know that will make you avoid being depressed are:
1. Do not trust too much
2. Do not love too much
3. The meaning you give to the world is what it becomes to you
4. Know the company you keep
5. Know the type of person you say is your friend
5. Nothing last forever.
©️Abonyi Hyginus Ebuka
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