IS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT REAL OR IS IT A DECEPTION?

 

I was traveling from Owerri, Imo state, Nigeria to my home town which is about 3 hours journey but because the roads are not motorable enough, including traffic jam, it will take you not less than 6 hours to travel by bus from Owerri to Nsukka in Enugu state, Nigeria.

I boarded a bus from Owerri to Enugu so that I can board another bus from Enugu to Nsukka. Resent, I decided not to travel with the Peace Mass Transit(PMT) which is one of my best traveling companies. I decided not to board their bus again because of :

1. There transporting charge is too much.

2. The buses conveying people from Owerri to Enugu is not user's friendly;  the sits are clustered together and one cannot feel comfortable inside the bus.

3. The loaders are rude. They don't even know that customers are to be pampered. They will just talk to you any how they want to as if to say that without their company you can't make a journey. 

All these factors made me to discover another transit company: EGMAT. My sit was the third of the sits in the bus. The first and second sits were already occupied by two young ladies. The one sitting on the second sit facially might be older than the lady on the first sit. The fourth and fifth sits were occupied by two young boys about 27-30 age of range. 

The boy sitting on the fourth sit said to the lady on the first sit (the conversation was in Igbo which is the local dialect of the people), "Hello beauty, please what is your name?" The lady ignored him. He said it like 6 or 7 times but the lady was not giving him attention nor did she even looked to know who was talking to her. Eventually, the boy's phone rang. When he picked the call, he said to the caller, "Please, I will call you back, I have found the love of my life and she is the lady that I am going to marry". After saying that, he dropped the call.

The other lady sitting on the second sit which is older, laughed and said, " In-lov (a form of ridicule). Just see you and see the love of your life. This is how you guys deceive us women".
The guy on the fourth sit said to the lady on the second sit, immediately I saw her (talking about the girl on the first sit), I fell in love with her. The other lady laughed and said, "Leave that thing, love at first sight is a scam". Let me not continue to bore you with this story anymore. Immediately I heard the statement of the girl, I asked myself a question, "Is love at first sight possible or is it a scam or a deceptive game as she noted?"

ANALYSIS:

Love is deeper than what we think it to be. It is a feeling which one has that he or she cannot describe how it is. The description of love is only representational. It is a deeper affection for someone. It is a pity on how love has been conceptualized by our society today. Some will say that when there is no money, there will be no love.

 
Love is a mystery because the way it happens cannot be comprehended. You love without no reason.
It is normally said that it hurts to love someone and not to be loved in return. It takes a seconds to fall in love, but the whole life time to fall out of love. When love comes, it has come. It comes unannounced. Love can happen anytime, any day, anywhere, any how, any minute or hour. Love is a gift which God gave to man that has not been grasped by scientist in whole. LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT IS REAL.

WHY SOME PEOPLE THINK THAT LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT IS NOT REAL
With the way things are happening nowadays where people pretend they love you but they are just filled with lust in their mind. They are attracted to you because you may be beautiful, have a fine body structure, might be interested in having sex with you and other similar situations like that. This is why it is advisable to be careful when we say we are in love or when someone says he or she loves us.
Love we should know does not take pleasure in lust, lost or gain; it does not hurt; it does not delight in pains rather love heals. Love comes unexpectedly like a thief. Love is the foundation of the world.
Good a thing for you when you find love.
Love carries one away that he or she will not discover what she is doing. All he or she is focusing to doing is how to make the person he or she loves happy.

THE BEST ATTITUDE TOWARDS LOVE
The way you behave determines how luck comes to you. Although love at first sight is possible, it doesn't undermine the fact that love can also be cultured and nurtured. Someone might do something you like and you will see yourself developing big love for that person. This normally happens. 

The girl who was sitting on the first sit in the bus I boarded, just imagine if she later at the long run did not even respond to the most the commonest question "what is your name", do you think that even if the boy was not in love with her at the moment, that through conversation they cannot develop love for each other? 

We should not be too mean and too lose at the same time. Communication strengthens love, relationship and even marriage. Sometime, we have to socialize. We never might know where we will find our own love.
The best attitude towards love is to be always disposed to accept it when it comes. It doesn't matter if you have been heart broken before or who loves you or who you love when your love comes, it will heal all your wounds.

©️ Abonyi Hyginus Ebuka

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