LOVE IS NOT HOW MUCH MONEY YOU SPEND ON HER OR THE SEX SHE GIVES YOU BUT HOW MUCH DO YOU BOTH CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR GROWTH AND FUTURE
Nowadays, almost 95% of the youth engage in relationship in the name of love or leading to marriage but wait, let's examine your relationship to see if it is RelationShip of RelationSink or relationShip of RelationGrowth.
When we talk of RelationShip of RelationSink we mean the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected in which the connectedness of the persons make them to go down below the surface or fall back. This is a way in which one among the two is Money-Sucking-Machine or a Sex-object or anything related to these.
In RelationShip of RelationSink, Love (in it's trueness) does not exist, rather money produces fake love. The purpose is to suck and flee. This is what is common among the youth nowadays. Here, one is egocentric and seek utility and pleasure that is self-centered.
RelationShip of RelationGrowth is the one in which people who are connected contribute compatible to the growth and development of each other and their future. People who are in this category is what Aristotle in his Philosophy of Friendship calls the Friendship of the Good. They seek no gain, pleasure or utility rather everything they do is for the common good of the parties involved.
Talking about RelationShip of RelationSink, Mr Reno Omokri suggested the "attitudeism" in this circle (character seen when one is in RelationSink) and I quote:
"Many men are paying the bills of women who are busy using that money to make themselves look perfect for other men".
Reno further advices, "If you are paying the bills of a woman that is not your wife, you are investing on a venture that may break your heart. As a man, you need a woman that is an investment into your future, not one that threatens your future. No matter how beautiful a girl is, if she starts billing you before you marry her, she is an economic drain that may prevent you from meeting your full economic potential".
Although his observation is one sided, to balance the scale I tell, "If you are a lady in a relationship and the guy is always demanding for sex as a sign of Love, He is not your husband; you are only inviting heart break and feeding sexually another girl's husband".
You should be able to define the purpose of any man or woman that wants you in a relationship by the demand and what he/she does. Do not say love is blind, love makes one to see clearly if it is true love. Passion is not love but looks like love that you find it hard to differentiate. Moreover , the scripture says that by their fruits, you shall know them. Do not live to regret tomorrow, make your tomorrow today by making your bed the way you want to lie on it.
©️ Abonyi Hyginus Ebuka
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