IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND YOUR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY?

Man (human being in general) according to Aristotle, is a social animal and if so, must socialize or interact with others. In the process of interaction, man interacts with fellow man, woman interacts with fellow woman and man interact with woman and woman interact with man. In this process of interaction between man and woman, a strong mutual attraction develops between mature man and woman. This attraction provokes the sense of fulfilment, pleasure or satisfaction and for Carl Jung, it creates sense of completeness and wholeness.

This mutual attraction develops into relationship of either boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife which has a lot of passion, great flow of emotion and deep-seated longing for the opposite sex. Nevertheless, considering the subject matter of this discussion, the attention is channelled towards boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with particular focus on "Is your girlfriend your financial responsibility?"

The concept of girlfriend as defined by wikipedia which is contextual to this discussion, is a female friend or acquaintance, often a regular female companion with whom one is Platonically, romantically or sexually involved. In the present time, there is a compelling force that pushes a boy and girl of age 14 and above to have a male or female friend he/ she calls his/her boyfriend/girlfriend.

However, it is common among girls that the main purpose of getting a boyfriend is to get a financial helper or an ATM machine that will supply money to them when they need money and that is why some girls will say, I cannot have a boyfriend who is broke. They will go further to encourage other girls not to date a boy that is not rich. The implication of this is that the girlfriend issue has been baptised into "No MONEY, no relationship" and once a boy is financial updating his girlfriend, he is a darling, sweetheart, loving, caring, etc, but if he is not, the opposite prevails.

Any relationship that endangers the future of either party, should be cut off and not encouraged. The question of why have a girlfriend is very important. It should be clear to all that you owe no one who is not your wife, a financial responsibility. But the problem is that the boys think that their girlfriends owe them sex whenever they demand it. Hence, it becomes a game of trade-by-barter where the boy gives money in exchange for sex from the girl.

This mentality brings about the definition of girlfriend from many sources as a person one is having sexual affairs with. This also caused the thinking that when a boy tells a girl that he loves her, what comes to mind is that he wants sex. In other to meet up the financial responsibility to a girlfriend, some boys engage in many criminal activities in other to get money.

In a categorical statement that your girlfriend is not your financial responsibility, Reno Omokri opined that "many men are paying the bills of women who are busy using that money to make themselves look perfect for other men. Reno continues, if you are paying the bills of a woman that is not your wife, you are investing on a venture that may break your heart. As a man, you need a woman that is an investment into your future, not one that threatens your future. No matter how beautiful a girl is, if she starts billing you before you marry her, she is an economic drain that may prevent you from meeting your full economic potential".

I so far Reno is correct in his thinking, it does not mean that a man cannot offer financial help to his girlfriend if he has, but it is not must you will give assistance. As you give financial assistance, you should bear this in mind, "Do no offer assistance to your detriment". 

If a girl you call your girlfriend is frequently seeking financial assistance from you, cut her off, she is a threat to your future but if she gives you support and encourages you not to spend lavishly, keep her and marry her: she is a wife material, one you can build a good future with.

Nonetheless, I have not seen someone who died because he does not have a girlfriend, therefore, it is not a must that you will have a girlfriend, when you do not have, you will not die and if you must have a girlfriend, know that she is not your financial responsibility and she does no owe you sex. 

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