SEX WITH A WOMAN IN HER MENSTRUATION

©️Abonyi Hyginus Ebuka

The ability to have self control in sexual desires, is ability to say, "I am a human being with a reason".

It is no doubt that nowadays, sex is a common thing among young people of age 11 years and above even with some of the teachings of some religions that s*x outside marriage is a sin. S*x is like a commitment and when one knows it's taste, it is hard for one to let go and the tendencies of continuing having s*x are high. The reason is because man by nature is a sexual being but man as a rational human being cannot allow his sexual desire to supercede his other human nature, therefore, man must find a way to strick a balance between his sexual desires and his other human nature. 

I am not here to preach or be a motivational speaker, I am here to tell you the reality: avoid s*x with a woman in her menstruation or in a normal parlance, period. There was a video clip from one female Nigerian comedian who advices men that the first thing they should ask a lady when the meet her after the compliments that she is beautiful is whether she is in her menstruation/ period. Although she sounds wield and it looks embarrassing to first ask a lady such a question but what is important or the point I think she was trying to make is to tell men not to f**k a lady who is in her menstruation. The question one out of curiosity will ask is why should I not s*x one who is in her menstrual cycle?

For clarity sake, menstruation is a monthly virginal bleeding that happens as part of a woman's monthly cycle. This period, the woman discharges blood and other materials and the period of menstruation varies in length like about 2 to 7 days: The blood and other materials discharged are waste products. 

In the old Jewish tradition, women who are in their menstruations are not allowed to sit in front seat of the temple, the sat at the back because they believed they are unclean human beings. Even in Igbo traditional culture, they believe that a woman in her menstruation can spoil or deactivate a charm by mere crossing over it or even with her presence. Therefore, the elders do not allow women more exclusively those in their menstruations to near a place they worship "Chukwu Okike abiama" (God almighty).

Under religious mythology, a woman who is in her menstruation, is like a rotten egg that has stayed for days and having sexual affair with her during that period is making yourself unclean because you have met what is unclean. Again, under this myth, meeting a woman even outside her period has spiritual implications of which one of them is unification with the person and if you meet a woman in her menstruation, you are tired together with a spirit which you do not know and your spirituality will go down little by little without you discovering it and hence, they believe that s*x for the unmarried is evil.

Apart from religious mythological believe, I was in a serious discussion with one of my close female friends who is a nurse on sexual matters and she said to me, "...Hyginus, because I cherish you so much, I will advice you not in your life to try having s*x with a lady who is in her period". I asked her the reason why she tells me such a thing. She said and I quote: 

It is not good to meet a girl in her menstruation, It causes more damage for men. This is because menstruation is a wasted blood and some girls during this period, will have so much disease and infections which will cause damage medically to any man who meets her and there is a higher chances of contracting such infections at that period: Gonorrhea; Urinary tract infection, etc.

One fact you should bear in mind is that women can keep secret and they know majority of the things that will be good for men when it comes to sexual affair. Any lady who loves you, will tell you that she is in her menstruation so that you will be aware of what is going on and control your hegoating nature ( man acting like a horse when he feels to having s*x).

I asked Joy, a friend nurse, why some girls do not tell their boyfriends that they are in their period and she said: "Men are so stubborn and think they are very wise that when even they are told, 70 per cent will think that the lady is just trying not to allow them have their ways: majority of us Joy said, do tell you guys but you people are stubborn".

What will it profit a man that after gaining all the sweetness of s*x that last highest eight (8) or ten (10) minutes and carries a sickness that will cost him a lot of money to treat if it can even be treated? The implication of this is very simple, keep away from sexual affair with a woman in her period or contract a sickness. 

Yes, I know that married men will think that they are safe, my brother you are not safe. She is your wife, we do not drag that with you, you have right to demand s*x from her anytime you want, we are not here to debate that with you: Just consider your health first, before pleasure. The difference between man who has reason and animal who does not reason is the ability to control our sexual libido. You must not s*x when you feel honey or when you are in the urge. Think about the situations surrounding the action you will take. The first question a normal human being ought to ask himself before embarking on any task is, "the advantage and disadvantage which one is greater?" Today, if you do not harden your heart, it shall be well with you.