©️Abonyi Hyginus Ebuka
... she fall for money, she is a golddigger: the marriage ended within a month.
Who else has been observing what is going on in marriages nowadays? The worst path is that it is looking as if to say it is the norm. When I was born, up till 2015 I guess, it was hardly that you hear that people divorce their marriage from this part of the country. Marriage was regarded as an agreement where a man to be husband and a woman to be wife, unit together in love following the necessary customs to become husband and wife; in sickness, in joy and sadness, in poverty and richness, all the days of their life.
Nowadays, marriage is not what we thought it to be anymore. Marriage is now a contract where two parties contract themselves to live together for a period of time which when the contract is over, each will go his/ her separate ways: this is the fact whether we like it or not. By this one will now begin to ask what has gone wrong these days?
From critical observation, I get to find out that people do not marry again for love, they marry for riches/ wealth. Many of our young ladies are golddiggers that they can follow anybody who has the cash. The first question an average lady of the 21st century will ask a guy who approaches her for Relationship is, "Do you have the cash to spoil me?"
Mennn, nobody cares about love again and for them, who does love help. My dear, love helps, you will understand when you tested. Hence from the mentioned reason, a lady will prefer to follow a yahoo boy rather than sticking to his poor boyfriend who is making a sincere effort to make a living. What many of these ladies that follow yahoo boys face is that they are used for rituals and majority of them go mad on the street.
The main problem here is that parents do contribute 80 per cent to this problem. If a lady has a suitor or suitors seeking her hand in marriage, instead of the parents to make sure that she chooses the person she loves, they will first try to inquire the suitor that has money or that is wealthy and make sure that their daughter gets married to him. If the lady resist not to marry the person they are projecting, they will use pressure on her to concur.
My dear, love is greater than money, you might live with a person who has money but you will not have happiness. Do you know how boring it is to live with one person and be faithful to him all they days of your life? I guess many of our young people do not know that. It is only boring when you are not really in love with each other.
If we really understand what love is, we will rather choose falling in love with a person than falling in wealth with a person. Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.
My kind advice to us all it that, we suffer with someone whom we love all the days of our life than to die in pains being with someone we do not like just because of money: Do not die in silence. When you suffer in love, you will not even see it as suffering, it will be people around you that will see it like that. Again, let us not make marriage or treat it as if to say it is a child's play. One of the things the world should take very serious is marriage because from marriage is found family and from family is found community, from community is found society both micro and macro. The implication of this is that, if our marriage is well, family will be well and that will affect other things.
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