©️ Abonyi Hyginus Ebuka
A must read for:
1. Those who claim to be in love
2. Those who want to fall in love
3. Those who is told am in love with you
4. Those who wish to say I love you.
"Love comes with great price and a selfless sacrifice".
Over the years man has sought to understand the concept of love, how it works, the force and machanism behind it but love seems to be mystical as day grows and even when subjected to scientific interpretation, becomes more mystifying than we can imagine: some claim that love is like a magic, it just happen.
It is truth and cannot be denied that people fall in love but the problem is how to distinguish love from lust, passion or desire for when one says, I am in love, on a critical observation h/she is just satisfying his or her passion/desire/lust.
From this juncture, without trying to probe deep into the nature of love, a question of what is the essence of love comes to play: Time or trust? To avoid ambiguity of title, we are just trying to understand what first is the foundation for which love is developed.
A popular saying says that it takes a minute to love someone, and a lifetime to forget someone you love. This strongly suggests that love happens within time. Time brings love and lovers together. Time is the regulator of every thing that happens in the universe and therefore, we can boldly say that Time proceeds Trust because for without time, trust cannot be built. From the Philosophical understanding of the term essence, it is that which is the fundamental base of a being. Essence means the most important and primary thing. Hence, if time is what regulates and count what is done, without mapping out time, you cannot build trust. For trust does not just come, it is built if and only if time is created.
It is then arguable that the essence of love is time. But, time cannot sustain love, trust needs to come in. This implies that time is not only the essence of love for essence is also understood as the life giving element for which without life ceases to exist. Therefore, Time and Trust become the essence of love: they are inseparable and go in paripasu.
Nevertheless, a deeper reflection also show more fact about the essence of love. Insofar, time and trust is required to sustain LOVE one cannot do without communication.
Communication binds and brings people together. It is a means of exchanging information from one source to another. In this sense, it is intellectual intercourse that exist between individuals or even larger group of people that leads to exchange, transmission, experience, affection, goods, pleasantries, services.
To have time and trust in love but without communication is like building a house upon sand: communication solidifies LOVE. It creates forum for understanding and also opens someone's heart to another.
Categorically, in a relationship where either Time, Trust, Communication (TTC) is lacking, love is not there. Hence, if you have time without trust or communication and trust without time, or communication without trust and time (which is not even possible), do not say we love each other!❎
Any person that says, I love you but hardly creates time for you, does not love you or feel comfortable staying for weeks without trying to hear from you or finds it hard to trust you does NOT love you.
Let the three aforementioned be the parameter for measuring love not that they are the only means to measure love but that they are the fundamentals. It will help you know when you are loved or played.
Young people nowadays come to play in the guise of coming to love. Love is no doubt built and some people who might come to play might in the process of playing, fall in love.
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